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Learn about allergies
A NO is okay — a MAYBE is not.
A clear “no” is something a family can act on. “It should be fine” is not.
Six short pages about food allergies — what they are, where they hide, and how to answer honestly when somebody asks you a question you cannot actually answer. Written twice: once for grown-ups, once for kids, with nothing left out of the kids' version.
Same page, two ways of saying it. The kids' version is shorter and Ezzie tells it — but nothing frightening has been taken out, because leaving it out is how a child ends up surprised by it.
Six things worth knowing
Page 1 of 6
What a food allergy actually is
An allergy is the body's defence system getting a food badly wrong — which is a different thing from disliking a food, and a different thing again from an intolerance.
Page 2 of 6
Where allergens actually hide
A short list of foods causes most reactions, and the trouble is rarely the obvious dish — it is the sauce, the stock, the oil and the label.
Page 3 of 6
What a reaction can look like
Reactions do not all look the same, they do not all start with a rash, and a mild-looking one is not a promise about what comes next.
Page 4 of 6
How allergens travel between foods
Nobody has to put an allergen into a dish for it to end up there. A shared pan, a shared fryer, a shared pair of hands will do it for them.
Page 5 of 6
Why a maybe is worse than a no
Hedged reassurance is the most dangerous thing anybody says to an allergic family, and the person saying it is almost always being kind.
Page 6 of 6
What happens when somebody reacts
Three things a bystander can do while help is on the way: believe the person, call early, and stay with them. What happens after that is on the plan their own doctor wrote.
A NO is okay — a MAYBE is not.
A clear “no” is something a family can act on. “It should be fine” is not.
Almost nobody gives a reassuring answer to be unkind. They give it because "I don't know" feels like failing. It isn't — it is the only answer a family can do anything with.
Still got a question?
Ezzie has read all six pages and nothing else. Ask her about allergies and she'll try to answer from those pages, showing you which bit she's leaning on so you can go and read it yourself. She's a machine and she can get it wrong — check anything that matters against the page she cites.
Before you read on
This is general education, not medical advice and not a medical device. It cannot tell you what anyone is allergic to, what is happening to them, or what to do about it — that is between them and their own doctor.